When was the last time you had fun?
This wasn’t something I thought much about, until last year. Then I started my life coaching course. One of the first exercises we did was around the Wheel of Life. As part of this, my coach asked me “on a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 was totally unsatisfied, and 10 was totally satisfied, how satisfied was I in each section of the wheel?”. I gave “fun” a 2.
I then had to explain to my coach what a “2” in the fun section meant for me. The year before, my mum had passed away, suddenly and unexpectedly, triggering a series of changes that had left me reeling, still trying to catch up. I was now part of the sandwich generation, responsible not just for bringing up my son, but also caring for my increasingly frail father. Fun was not something I was thinking of.
And then suddenly, I had to.
When was the last time I had fun?
I couldn’t remember.
I couldn’t even think of what fun was for me.
Oh heck. What was fun anyway? I had to really think about that one.
What is fun?
When you look it up in the dictionary, you’ll find words like:
- light-hearted pleasure
If you want a truly balanced life, then it needs to include fun.
Now fun to me doesn’t involve alcohol or drugs. It doesn’t involve teasing, joking or making fun of someone else. (Don’t even get me started on pranking!)
Fun for me is about enjoying the moment and being able to laugh whole-heartedly. When I sat down and thought about it, I found that:
- I enjoy reading.
- I love going to the cinema.
- I love musicals and visits to the theatre.
- I enjoy going for a walk with my family and the dogs.
- I enjoy shopping.
- I love travelling and exploring.
- I love learning new things.
- I love watching The Big Bang Theory.
- I love hugs from my husband and my son.
- I laugh when my son mimics my husband in order to get me do something for him.
- I love going to a really good restaurant.
In the same way that when you start counting your blessing, you realise that you are truly blessed, I found that there were loads of opportunities for fun in my life. I just wasn’t taking them. So at the beginning of the year, when I set out my 100 goals for the year, many of them were fun.
Where am I now?
Well, for a start, I smile much more.
I’m more resilient.
In my life, I’m making time for my son, for my husband and for my father. I get out of the house much more. I have loads of tickets for shows, and voucher for a spa day and am looking forward to the summer holidays.
In my business, I have a new coach and she’s kicking my backside big time! I’m clearer on who I want to work with and how I can help them find the person they’ve forgotten they are, to unlock their potential and transform their life into something more fun.
How can I help you?
Life Coaching is all about change and moving forward. If like me, you’ve forgotten what fun is, and want to change this, then get in touch. I want to help.
Let’s get you smiling again. You deserve it.
Take care for now